McGreevey’s reality TV

McGreevey’s reality TV

: As I mentioned earlier, a reporter from the Philadelphia Inquirer, Daniel Rubin, called me earlier tonight to talk about McGreevey’s announcement as television. What remarkable television it was.

On the one hand, this was reality TV with more raw, real human drama than any reality TV ever aired and more bluntness than any political speech ever given. Knowing what was going to happen for a few hours before he came on camera, I expected a duck and feint job from a politician. Instead, we saw an emotional, forceful, courageous announcement of a man’s secret.

But on the other hand, this was utterly unreal. Roiling just below the surface were a dozen other stories that were not told: There are the reports that the man who forced McGreevey’s secret out was his gay lover whom McGreevey hired for a $110,000 state job for which the man was utterly unqualified. There was his wife, standing there as if stoned. There was the hard-slap realization that McGreevey had used this wife and one before and children by both marriages as his beard for his political career. There was the contention that McGreevey was now using his gayness to obscure other sins and crimes. There was the story of an apparently devout Catholic who did the sin thing. There was the anguish of a gay man in the smoke-filled closet. There was the political intrique of maneuvering to avoid an election in November and keep the governor’s office in Democratic hands. There was the media’s role in helping to keep McGreevey’s secret. There were the other secrets waiting to come out: the story of the broken leg and God know’s what else. All this down the road in the home named Drumthwacket. Unreal.

McGreevey’s speech looked like a blast of steam but that hid the witches’ cauldron of bubble, bubble, toil, and trouble.

Usually, what we see in media — and in politics — is the unreal masking the real. Here, the real masked the unreal.

: Perhaps McGreevey will set a new bar for political confessions. What if Bill Clinton had come out and defiantly declared himself an American sex addict? What if Bush had come out and openly admitted he was a drunken slacker who pulled every string he could find to avoid putting on a uniform? What if Kerry came out and said he never could get Southeast Asian geography straight: I am a cartographic dyslexic! What if Dean screamed, I suffer from hyperactive ADD? What if Nixon said, I was a crook? Ya gotta problem wid dat?

This speech was as dramatically amazing as it was tactically perfect.

Even the queen of snark-cynicism, Wonkette, is softened: “Excuse the expression, but screw Obama. This was the speech of the year. The most high profile outing, well, ever, and McGreevey handled it with grace and dignity. He sort of makes me want to go gay, too.”

Put this speech next to the Nixon Checkers speech, the Clinton sex speech, the Johnson abdication speech, the Gov. Rowland beat-impeachment speech, even the horny Duke of Windsor speech — you name it — and it stands out as the best public confession in modern media memory.

27 responses to “McGreevey’s reality TV”

  1. Kat Avatar

    {and it stands out as the best public confession in modern media memory.} It would have merit if he resigned because he was gay–he didn’t. I see it simply as a ploy to detract from the real isses. He had best enjoy his spotlight in the sun–it’s all downhill from now on…………using the poor, oppressed, gay victim card won’t cut it. Too bad he wasn’t man enough to confess to his real crimes and quit NOW.

  2. Andi Avatar

    >> Too bad he wasn’t man enough to confess to his real crimes and quit NOW.
    His political career is over anyway and stepping out now would just leave a lot of state business in disarray.
    A televised confession would be a criminal defense nightmare that only a brain-dead idiot would deliver, not a man.

  3. dan Avatar

    Jeff,
    I have no clue about McGreevey’s antics in particular or corrupt New Jersey politics in general, but two of your assumptions about McGreevey’s sexuality sounded way off base to me:
    1. You concluded, based apparently on nothing, that the Governor exploited his wives and children as “political beards.” How can you possibly know that? He may love his family profoundly, despite his infidelity and his political ambitions (it happens, people contain multitudes); he may have been in hermetically sealed psychological denial about his sexual orientation until very recently; and so on.
    2. Homosexuality isn’t “the priestly nasty” that has inspired so much public scandal lately. That would be pedophilia. Leaving the impression that the two sexual activities are equivalent isn’t just wrong, but negligent. I hope you’ll amend that section of your post.
    Also, I’m surprised by your sudden interest in the moral character of politicians–and “the media’s role in keeping” their “secrets.” I thought you considered such matters (in the cases of Kerry and Bush, anyway) not just irrelevant, but beneath political discussion.
    Isn’t McGreevey also just a collection of, in your words, “issues and stands”?
    Perhaps in a future post you’ll explain why only “the hard-slap realization” of McGreevey’s character flaws, and tawdry allegations about same, deserves your (and our?)exceptional attention. It can’t simply be that McGreevey’s character flaws revealed themselves while in office, after all, since you didn’t confine your speculations about McGreevey merely to the accusations of official impropriety which have been leveled against him.
    Dan

  4. Jeff Jarvis Avatar

    Dan:
    Good point on the priestly line; I have changed it.
    On “character” this is a matter of potential illegal use of his office: appointing a lover to a state job knowing the man had absolutely no qualifications is a crime in office.

  5. dan Avatar

    Jeff,
    Thanks for fixing the “nasty” line–I’d hoped you’d simply overlooked its implication.
    On “character” I can only point out (er, again) that you didn’t confine your remarks to allegations about McGreevey’s official misdeeds. You began discussing (speculating?) about his personal and familial failings/anguish and, or at least so it seemed, anticipating all the McGreevey sex-angle stories yet to boil over. You also seemed to be wondering why the local media had fastidiously left his sexual indiscretions alone.
    And there’s nothing wrong with that kind of discussion, speculation, and wondering. A politician’s character flaws often bleed over into the job in one fashion or another, after all. And discussing, speculating, and wondering about such flaws, distasteful though it may sometimes be, is best done early and often.
    I’m just hoping you’ll be as inquisitive when it comes to allegations about the character problems of other candidates and officeholders. Before it’s far too late to do anything about them.
    Still a fan

  6. jacksback Avatar
    jacksback

    Dan – Jeff is correct. His wife (both #1 and #2) were beards. Against Schindler when the gay issue started to pop up, she and he decided “baby time” in order to deflect any question of his deceitfulness. And make no mistake about it, his crime is not being gay, but being one of the sleaziest NJ politicos in a state known for writing the book on it.
    He hired his boy toy at $110K/yr to head up the State’s anti terrorism task force. That is how little he thinks of doing his job and protecting the citizens of NJ – he hired a freaking poet, who happened to share his bed to protect the people who elected him to office. Need i remind you that the 1993 WTC attack was planned in Jersey City? Do i need to also mention that Jersey has a very radical Muslim population?
    He used the State’s helicopter to fly him to Cape May to engage in romps with his lover(s).
    He took illegal campaign contributions from a gay doner who was going to get a job at “redeveloping” AC and who was trying to hire hookers to frame his brother in law to deflect from criminal and civil charges against him.
    Him standing up there, saying i’m a “gay American” (really? I thought you might be a gay Chinese”) and being hailed as a brave man is sickening. His gayness has NOTHING to do with what is going on. He is a crook just like Toricelli and a host of other NJ scum politicians.
    Hey who appointed Amiri Baraka to the post of NJ state poet? I keep on forgetting.

  7. dan Avatar

    Another contrarian thought: isn’t the whole scandalous “lover” and “pre-emptive self-outing” discussion actually irrelevant to McGreevey’s official misdeeds? Wouldn’t those misdeeds be just as bad if he’d given a job to his unqualified brother-in-law or unqualified business partner, etc.? If not, I wonder why not.

  8. dan Avatar

    jacksback:
    I’ve no doubt McGreevey is as disreputable as you make him sound. What I have a problem with is mind-reading. (He and his wife may, for instance, have enjoyed their “baby-making.” And may value their daughter more than either of us know. Even villains can love their children.)
    Also, as I mentioned above, McGreevey could’ve used state helicopters inappropriately, taken suspect donations, and given jobs to unqualified friends, without sex having anything to do with it. Those official misdeeds would remain exactly the same, wouldn’t they? So why the gleeful emphasis on the homosexual stuff, if not for its salaciousness?

  9. john marzan Avatar
    john marzan

    Jeff: “What if Kerry came out and said he never could get Southeast Asian geography straight”
    Errr… nice try. how about “I lied and exaggerated about something that I’m using as a foundation for my presidential run, even though Vietnam was more than 30 years ago and Iraq is the main issue, not Vietnam.”

  10. submandave Avatar

    Dan: “So why the gleeful emphasis on the homosexual stuff, if not for its salaciousness?”
    For the same reason discussions of Kerry center on his Vietnam War stories: he placed the emphasis there himself. I’m not gay, but if I were I think I’d be angry that he is using this emphasis to detract from those very real and serious allegations you chronicle. As it is, though, he is wrapping himself in the mantle of an agrieved and persecuted minority in an obvious attempt to bolster support from those inclinced to perceive any allegation against him to now be homophobically derived. Jeff seems to get this but then falls prey to the weakness of politicos and journalists in admiring the form over substance. The only differences between McGreevey’s use of his homosexuality and Marrion “Crack Pipe” Barry’s use of his Blackness is that McGreevey is the first to so grandly play the gay-card and did it quite eloquently.

  11. jacksback Avatar
    jacksback

    Dan – My only problem with his homosexuality is that it was just an example of his deceitfulness. Him being gay or not makes no diff to me or probably the voters of NJ. My take on it is he is a liar, corrupt, a patronage pig, and he resigns Nov 15 indicating that he still after all this has no principles, no guts and no honor.
    If his wife did not know he was gay she had to have been the dumbest woman in the world. Seeing her stand by “her man” like a stepford wife yesterday indicates to me she probably is.

  12. lucinda Avatar

    What’s amazing to you, is depressing to me. McGreevey is simply another gifted charasmatic performer with no moral compass. He didn’t get elected to governor all on his own, plenty of people supported him, funded him, covered for him on the way up. What does it say about the Democratic Party that they can’t properly vet a candidate? Where are the checks and balances within the party? Where are the legal advisers, the party muckity-mucks who can march into the Governor’s office and say, absolutely not, you are abusing the privileges of your office and we have no intention of taking on your liability?

  13. Kat Avatar

    It would be bad enough to be cheated on–but to be cheated on with a man–that would be horrific–my soft clean butt for a hairy one–no bloody way–I’d break all ‘3’ thigh bones before I’d stand there like a zombie–and then I’d get myself and my kids tested for HIV.

  14. Steve K. Avatar

    What you (and Wonkette) are calling a “great” political speech (in the same “class” as Clinton, Nixon, et al, ad nauseum), I am calling “more of the same ol’ political garbage.” It’s confession without remorse. That’s not worthy of applause. That’s worthy of derision. McGreevey screwed a lot more people than his gay lover — namely the entire state of New Jersey. Who gives a rat’s ass if he makes a “good speech”? In the final analysis, that’s all bullshit. The guy needs to get serious emotional and psychological help. Instead he’ll get talk shows, book deals, and the honor of being Grand Marshall in the “Gay Day” parade at Disneryworld. God save the Queen.

  15. Thom Avatar

    Jeff,
    The fact that your are moved by words, while knowing that they are just a cover for serious abuse of power, is baffling. Are you really that superficial.

  16. dan Avatar

    submandave said: “For the same reason discussions of Kerry center on his Vietnam War stories: he placed the emphasis there himself.”
    There’s an important difference: Kerry placed an emphasis on his service in Vietnam as evidence of his official virtues. McGreevey, if I heard his press conference correctly, didn’t place an emphasis on his homosexuality as evidence of his virtues, but (apparently) as a distraction from his vices. I’m suggesting that we don’t take him up on his invitation.
    But judging by the leering commentary on both FOX and CNN this morning, the media–and no doubt much of its audience–will expend much more time discussing the man’s sex life and his “dumb” wife than his sex-neutral official misdeeds.
    Lucian:
    I’m depressed too. Even more depressing: the Democratic Party isn’t alone in having a problem vetting its candidates. There are numerous examples of corrupt Republican officials, both gay and straight, who have been tolerated by the Republican party establishment.

  17. dan Avatar

    Whoops. I meant Lucinda. It’s early here.

  18. Tom Grey - Liberty Dad Avatar

    Lots of headlines, first lines — without the word “Democrat”.
    Vetting the candidates vs. supporting good “talkers” =liars.
    Kerry’s lies were enabled by a liberal anti-Rep press that “wanted” his lies (US soldiers commit crimes against humanity; medals aren’t worth it; he was IN Cambodia as the US Pres. lied) to be true. The last year of Dem Party nominations, without finding out Kerry’s Lies BEFORE the convention (despite the SBV talking in May!) is more than half the story.
    Jeff, please get on this — WHY did the Press, like you, FAIL to find out about Kerry’s Lies before? I’ll believe Left bias and self-deception until I hear better.

  19. Kat Avatar

    The guy could have just said he had had an extra-maritial affair but instead he knows he got caught with his hand in the government coffers and is playing the gay victim card. What a great way to detract from his corruption, sleaze, and campaign scandals….using the poor gay guy angle—society made him do it. A crook gets to play the victim, gets sympathy from lefties and the corruption and political sleaze… goes on the backburner–this guy becomes an icon for gay rights and it is our fault he deceived two women and two kids–poor, poor gay guy. I must say Cipel taught him well. Cipel was a poet( in charge of security–he likely touted treating terrorists with sensitivity)–the flowery shit rubbed off on McGreevey.

  20. dan Avatar

    Kat:
    Your comments represent exactly the sort of schoolyard babble I’d hoped we’d all try to avoid, but feared most of us wouldn’t.
    By the way: if you think you should only get tested for HIV if your husband commits adultery with a man, I’m worried about your “soft clean” behind. (To say nothing of being worried about your knowledge of both Africa and epidemiology). If you think you or your husband can transmit HIV to your kids simply through normal parental contact, I’m even more worried about you.

  21. Kat Avatar

    No, Dan, I’m worried there were lots of men.

  22. dan Avatar

    Kat:
    As opposed to the negligible HIV risks associated with having unsafe sex with lots of strange women? I’m suggesting that both are worth your worry.
    Oh, and I apologize if that above comment about “babbling” came off rude. Rereading it, I thought so. I didn’t intend to single out you or your sex comments in particular–only to note that those comments represented just the sort of beside-the-point, “what’s really interesting about all this is the sex!” commentary I consider such a puerile distraction.
    I think it’s healthier to avoid the urge to use McGreevey’s sexuality either to defend or to attack him. Keeping our eyes instead on the “prize” of his official (and gay-irrelevant) misconduct. At least and until that so-far-only-rumored-about sexual harassment suit is actually filed against Mr. McGreevey. At which point sex actually will legitimately enter the picture of his alleged official misdeeds.

  23. Jay Rosen Avatar

    “It stands out as the best public confession in modern media memory.”
    That would be “best” by what criterion of greatness for confessions?

  24. O'McSomething Avatar
    O’McSomething

    Forgoodnesssake! Settle down, Jeff! This is exciting and all, but be careful or you will have palpitations!

  25. Kat Avatar

    Dan–lots of lovers have threatened and blackmailed–McGreevey made this a gay issue to detract from his real crime. I don’t care if he is gay–I care about his using others because he thinks he can blame it on his gayety. He is a sleeze, who even now, Can’t just accept responsibility for his actions without playing the gay victim card. He never had to say he was gay–he could have said he cheated on his wife and was resigning due to personal issues–except the issues are not personal–they are criminal. If gays and heteros are equal, then act like it–don’t play your fricken gay card when things get tough. Gayetry is not an excuse–it’s your lifestyle. Live it….like a man.

  26. Tim Avatar

    Given his policies I thought he was a gay Russian.

  27. Carol Stewart Avatar
    Carol Stewart

    Hey Jeff, Dan and all,
    Looked like to me he went to Hallmark and played his Sympathy Card on national TV. America has become so desensitized re: the gay issue. Did he think he was speaking to the Politics for Dummies group? Flunkies of the Dr. Laura Show? And to stand there holding his wife’s hand…give me a break! How much of NJ/America did he think he could actually manipulate?
    He insulted our intelligence to think he was actually resigning over his gay issues….there HAD to be something serious…..the Matlock and Mason America were thinking….it’s NOT what he is saying…but what he isn’t saying.
    When people realize the value and dignity of truth…it truly will set them free…as my mother can attest to.
    In 1964 I was 12 and would be the last time I saw my mother for a long time. It was years later that I discovered she was a lesbian and the court forbid our visiting. I believe it is a sinful lifestyle but it wasn’t my place to say anything to her till I was older. I accepted her and treated her and her friends with respect. After years of nursing in south FL I discovered that I had just one predjudice….that of predjudiced people! Before I moved to Israel in the mid-80s, I hugged Mom’s friend goodbye. She thanked me for all the years of accepting my mother and mentioned I had been the only family member to accept her as well. PS: Before my Grandma died, she passed the “torch” to me…to pray for my mother every day. After 40 years in this lifestyle, she has joined a church this past year, was Baptized and lives with her sister!
    Dr. Phil would say, “Get real!” with others but mostly yourself.